Bissmillah-hir-Rahman-ir- Rahim
Why is it, that while I was being physically and verbally abused by my husband (who prays and fasts and by the way he is an Arab and I am an American convert). I received the pitty of my Islamic community and even some advised me to call the police on him; and after I got tired of asking for help from my community, after I called the police on him, and he was taken away, why is it that after he came back home, everyone of the brothers turned their backs at me and teamed up with my husband and encourage him not to spend any time with me or the children and accuse me of being a bad wife because I got help from the police? Why is it that none seems to care, for the fact that my husband has even cheated on me with another woman and even taking her to night clubs? I love Islam, but often, it seems very difficult for me to remember that Muslims are not a perfect example of Islam.

Angelica Barakat
USA

 

Dear sister Angelica Barakats,
As salamualaikum Wa Rehmatullah

Unfortunately Muslims do not reflect ideal behaviour as ordained by Islam. Physical and verbal abuse is also very common in deteriorated societies. Cultural norms and traditions take precedence over Islamic injunctions. Some of the societies consider being sent to the police station as insulting and humiliating and a severe sin in comparison to physical and verbal abuse. As a new Muslim, who accepted Islam by choice you face greater challenges of patience and Dawah. May Allah bless you with all the noble teachings of Islam and save you from the so called Muslim traditions. We can imagine how difficult it is for you to face your current crisis, but, constant study of Quran and Sunnah and five times prayers and supplication shall give you enough courage and wisdom for sure.

Sincerely,

Qazi Hussain Ahmed,
Ameer Jamaat-e-Islami Pakistan.                             Top