QUESTION:

I have inheritance from my mother that my husband insisted on putting in his name because he thinks I am not so responsible with money. Well, last weekend I insisted that he put my inheritance back in my name and we have tried to talk and work through what happened but now the money is an issue with him. He says I am hiding something from him? I told him I just wanted my rights secured in case he thinks he can hit me again [earlier he broke my nose]. That is the money my mother left for me and our daughter and I have every right to have control of it. Am I wrong and what about the hitting? I really am at a loss.

ANSWER:

Your husband has no right at all on what was exclusively yours. You should not have placed that money in his name. That was a mistake. You could even refuse flatly to spend a penny from what is yours for the household expenditure; as a husband, that was his responsibility, totally.

And hitting [unless you refuse sharing bed as wife, and that too not of the sort to end up in broken nose], is absolutely unacceptable. If he does not regret and does not make solemn pledge for future to behave properly, you have the legal right even to sue him in the court of law, so that he realizes he was dealing with a wife [equal partner] and not some slave girl.

Having said this, however, it is important to realize that relations are more than a legal question. Let you two discuss this matter and try to mitigate the situation.